Giving up

We are taught to never give up. We are taught that we need to stand up for our opinions, values, standards, feelings. And partly this is so true. I have always appreciated those people who do not budge, but there are situations when the smartest move one can make is to give up. There are times when nothing good can come out of a situation and the best decision to make is to step out. Admittedly, it asks for courage. Because sometimes the situations are so complex, or maybe we spent so much time, energy and emotions that giving up would almost mean giving up to a part of ourselves. What we need to understand is that we are not defined by those situations or by those relationships or by those people. We decide what defines us and what doesn't. So, if in the light of a new perspective, we come to the conclusion something isn't going to the expected outcome ... nor it can be obtained otherwise, I truly believe it's high time to let it go. When I write these lines I do have in mind a situation and it hurts to even think I might need to let it go. But somehow I trust this is the best decision. At this point there is no better option since the relationship cannot continue as it is going now and any other option ... well there are no really other options. I am mortified ... but soon I really won't have a choice. All I know right now it's that I am so used to this situation/relationship that I will sure miss it!